Your Hero’s Journey
You can’t get rid of your childhood, but you can make it stop controlling you!
- Is it important that others feel good – before you do?
- Are you preoccupied with others’ opinion of you?
- Are you good at making excuses – for others?
- Do you get defensive and feel attacked?
- Are you dependent on others for recognition and approval in order to feel that you are good enough?
This may be some of the symptoms of an upbringing in a family with unsuitable patterns. You may have been influenced in such a way that you are not good at taking yourself seriously, branding yourself, and taking care of yourself. You may feel like a victim and feel that you are unable to do anything about what the challenges within your life.
Your Hero’s Journey is about you and the journey many of us have to set out on before we can become a whole person. In myths and folktales heroes are fighting against dragons and other dangers, perhaps with the assistance of a helper or magical tools. Among other helpful tools, this book offers the S.A.R.-method which is developed by psychotherapist Mariah Wolfe. S.A.R. stands for Self–Awareness, Authenticity and Relationships. It is not mystic or magic, but is about developing yourself and your own inner hero. The book is filled with case studies and exercises. These tools can help you on your own hero’s journey.
Do you recognize these characteristics of an adult raised in a family with unsuitable patterns?
- An exaggerated sense of responsibility for the actions and moods of others.
- A tendency to mistake love for passion by “loving” persons, whom they can redeem and show compassion.
- A tendency to do more than their share, all the time.
- A tendency to feel hurt when others fail to recognize their effort.
- An unhealthy dependency within relationships. The person will do anything in order to stay in a relationship just to avoid the feeling of desolation.
- An extreme need for approval and recognition.
- A sense of guilt when they are the center of attention or take up too much space in a situation.
- A forced need to control others – under the cover of care and worry.
- Lack of confidence in oneself and/or others.
- Their actions are based on fear of being abandoned or being alone.
- Difficulties in identifying and putting feelings into words.
- Stiffness at/difficulties in accepting and adapting changes.
- Problems with intimacy and boundaries – it can both be too much and too little.
- Chronic anger.
- Difficulties in communicating.
- Difficulties in decision-making.