Trauma affects our bodies by getting stored in the nervous system. Although, we can read books, meet friends, have therapy sessions, watch videos and do other activities to detox difficult emotions, learn and grow, we carry the trauma wherever we go.
The human body jerks, twitches and tenses up when it experiences shock. The shoulders rise up and arms are crossed or other involuntary movements occur in the body. Living with a narcissist and facing a narcissist regularly builds up a tension – a trauma – in the body gradually. A tension that does not release it self because we have to be on guard all the time.
Sometimes anxiety occurs when someone is attacking us directly through demeaning or abusive behavior. But it also builds up over time when you think about it or the body is fidgety and is going through trauma.
Bad experiences are stored by our body in the part of our brain that is called amygdala. The amygdala informs us what seems to be dangerous for us based on our emotions and past experiences. If you were bitten by a dog as a child, you will most likely have a fear of dogs in adulthood. This happens because the amygdala stores the former emotions connected to an entity as a memory.
The amygdala gives you warning signals to be aware of the situation and avoid the problem from happening again. Similarly, if a person experiences abuse, and has experienced living with a toxic person, their body will remind them to stay cautious.
For example, if a person had been in a relationship with a toxic person or grew up with toxic parents, they will have problems in dating. Because the brain signals their body of what their past experience was. They will experience anxiety and fear again, when dating or while thinking of going on a date.
If the trauma is not released from our body, trusting a person again can be difficult. You will not be able to get over the thoughts and will fear that the new partner is also going to hurt you.