This question implicates that I committed a crime. Maybe I did. You’ll never know.
But it is not a crime to co-write a book about your upbringing in a dysfunctional family with a narcissistic parent. And that’s why people want to know about it.
When Mariah and I began writing our books about narcissism, she used her own experiences, while I hid mine under case stories. After a while, I realized that I wanted to break free. That I could add much more personal and emotional value to the book, if I was honest about my past. That it would help me – and that it would help others.
Therefore, I posted a Facebook-update about my upbringing, and it shocked a lot people who didn’t know. Instead of being shamed and scolded, which was a big part of my childhood, I received support and love.
Then I began writing. It was difficult. Not to put it into words. Apparently, I already had the words and my story inside me, ready to set free. The difficult thing was facing the buried memories and realizing that it WAS a big issue, and that I wasn’t insane. That it was all right to feel vulnerable and know that your childhood and youth was affected by – in my own, humble, non-professional opinion – a narcissistic parent and a co-dependent parent. That a dysfunctional family doesn’t have to include alcoholism or physical abuse. That mental abuse and the narcissistic spider’s web can create similar damage to a child.
And that is what I say to people, who asks me why I wrote about my childhood: To tell others that “normal” families not always are well-functioning or flawless. That narcissistic people exist in all kinds of environment. And that you can overcome it, and you will feel better, when you know that.
Guestblogger and co-writer of the books about narcissists, Charlotte Lindhardt, who has openly shared what it was like for her to grow up with a narcissistic mother.
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The narcissistic husband or father forces you to give up yourself, to make room for only him in your life. He will belittle you, ridicule you and scare you.
The narcissistic wife or mother manipulates you. Nothing is ever good enough for her. She will blame you for everything bad in her life.